3 Signs She’s Ready to Give You Her Number

“You’re either born with it or you’re not.” I hear that a lot.

I hear it mainly from guys who have trouble socializing “naturally,” so they turn to systems and methods that change dating into a scientific experiment.

These guys break down the dating process into a step-by-step procedure, analyzing each part.

And the most overly-analyzed aspect of the dating process is getting her phone number.

“When do I ask her for her number? How do I guarantee she gives it to me? How many minutes into our initial conversation should I wait before asking for the number?”

A guy actually asked me that once. And I told him this:

“There is no fucking time limit!”

It’s all about the connection.

There have been many times I’ve talked to a woman in line at the supermarket where we had a nice 15- or 20-second conversation and I felt the spark — I knew it was there! And so I’d look at her and say:

“You know what, before you run, give me your number. We need to talk more about the sushi you’re going to go home and eat.”

Whatever it is, I don’t care. I’ll just say anything.

Then I get the phone number.

I’ve gotten into a good 10-minute conversation and gotten the phone number — sometimes 30 minutes, sometimes only five. It all depends on where you’re at and where you are in the moment.


“If you don’t understand these things,
then you’ve really got a lot to learn.”
Never be afraid to ask for the phone number if these three things occur:

1. You actually have a real conversation with her.

And I mean real. None of the fluffy, stop-and-chat, “weather looks good today” stuff.

2. She tells you personal things about herself.

A woman will never tell you anything personal about herself unless she felt comfortable. Trust is a big part of any relationship, and trust is something that needs to be built from the beginning of your interaction.

If she can trust you with her life details, she can trust you with her number.

3. There’s a spark between the two of you.

You know that feeling you get when you meet someone you just click with? It always happens in a moment and it’s not something you can reason. It’s just a spark. When you feel that, it’s on.

So if you’re like one of the scientific guys I described earlier, look for these three signs and you’ll always know when it’s the right time to ask for her number.

But I would suggest you develop some sensitivity. It’ll be much easier for you in the future. You can get out of your head and really dig into the moment.

It’s not just about you looking out for the signs above.

Is her eye contact with you? Is she smiling? Is she glowing? (Yes, there’s a glow women have when they have a connection with a man they’re attracted to.)

If you don’t understand these things, if you don’t know what a woman is attracted to, then you’ve really got a lot to learn.

But you’re here because you want that magical phone number. Watch out for the three signs above and you’ll get it.

Guys, do you have trouble getting the girl’s number? Which tip are you going to use to get the number every time from now on?

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How to make scary “Work You” into desirable “Date you”?

Dating can sometimes feel like a job. We get it. But the way to take it easy (for less stress and less feeling like you’re forcing yourself to date) and make it fun is to make sure you’re showing up as the authentic “date you” rather than the more masculine, get-it-done “work you!”

“Work you” can be overstressed, tired, aggressive and cranky. She wants answers and she wants them now.

“Work you” can also be a woman who’s impatient, intolerant and rigid. Let’s be clear: This is not the way you want to show up for a date.

We’re not saying you have to turn into a damsel in distress or play the “dumb” card, but we do want you to be the best version of you: a successful woman who’s also rested, intelligent and a go-getter!

Either way, it’s important to be able to transition from “work you” to “date you” for your after-work meet and greets!

Dating with Dignity has some pointers for how to do this effortlessly:

1. Bring a bag with a sexy, fresh outfit.

If you get dressed and ready for your happy hour date at 8 a.m., chances are even if you get a chance to freshen up, you aren’t going to feel shiny and new.

Instead, bring a change of clothes and your “Dating with Dignity Sexy Alpha Fem Goody Bag.”

Your goody bag can include perfume, a pair of sexy power panties, power pumps, a hot new eyeliner that perhaps isn’t your basic black and a signature accessory that’s a great conversation piece.

Doing this quick change before you go out will help you get excited and into your feminine mojo, thus increasing your attraction factor dramatically.

“Rushing into a date without taking a
minute will ensure ‘work you’ shows up.”
2. Schedule an early workout the day of your post-work date.

An early morning yoga sesh is a wonderful way to start your day!

Not only will you pump yourself full of endorphins, but the two- to five-minute meditation at the end of your workout can help put you into a positive, hopeful state.

In addition, a healthy dose of early morning self-care will help you feel good about your curves (not to mention it ensures you take a shower before your date)!

Whether it’s yoga or a 20-minute walk around your block, moving your body in some way before your date will help bring good feminine energy to your evening.

3. Take a breath BEFORE you meet for drinks.

Rushing straight into a date and checking your email one last time while you’re waiting for him to arrive (or pick you up) without taking a minute to relax will definitely ensure “work you” shows up to meet your date.

Create a specific, intentional transition from work to romance. Shut down your computer, turn off your phone and take quiet time to connect to your feminine self.

Whether you meditate, take time to create the mental list of what you’re grateful for in your life as a single woman or just take three deep, diaphragmatic breaths, slowing down can help you transition seamlessly into making a good first impression.

Remember, having a career doesn’t mean you need to bring it on your date like a third wheel.

Leave that “work you” at work, connect to your sexy alpha female and remember dating with dignity can be fun!

So what do you think? How do you go from “work you” to “date you”? Do any of these tactics work for you?

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Getting through Divorce or Separation with Dignity and Integrity – 10 Pointers

1. Regardless of how it looks you’re not the only one suffering here.
The most painful aspect for most of the people that come to me to get over their heartbreak after divorce is that often they suspect their Ex doesn’t care at all. Either that or it looks like they’re about to get away with breaking up the family with no implications. This is very rarely true it’s just some people hide their feelings behind a wall you have no hope of seeing over.

2. You really must take responsibility for how heartbroken you feel and deal with it.
Your Ex is very unlikely to be even remotely interested in your emotional welfare regardless of what they’re saying. When it comes to getting through a divorce, defensive lines are often being drawn to allow for the separation. You’re probably going to need to develop a support structure that doesn’t involve your Ex thinking about life after divorce. In ‘How to Get Over a Breakup’ I talk about how to develop a breakup buddy and why you need one. Let’s face it, you probably feel like a bomb has just gone off in your life.

3. Do not try to turn your kids against the other parent.
Not only do you risk really messing them up but you could turn them against you. If not now then at some point in their future they will be able to think for themselves. They could be very unhappy if you’ve cost them 10 years with someone they now really like. 50% of their genetic make up comes from the person you may currently be enraged with. Do not make your kids your breakup buddies, it’s plain wrong and has been referred to as emotional incest.

4. Do not attempt to have friends pick sides
This kind of behavior comes from your feelings of heartbreak and the desperation and fear that occur. It’s natural and normal but you have a responsibility to figure out how to manage yourself. This could well be the the most painful thing that’s ever happened to you. If you don’t handle that pain well, you may well mess up the rest of your life too. You might want to take a look at how the grief letter is structured in ‘How to Get Over a Breakup’.

5. Trust that you will be able to manage on your own.
You might not remember this but you were once pretty capable all on your own. This is not going to kill you, you will figure things out and you will be OK. Especially if you start getting the support you need right now and don’t just wait for D-day.

6.Try to avoid getting litigious unless you really need to.
There are plenty of services designed to enable you to mediate your divorce. Even divorce lawyers hate it when couple’s start using the courts to fight personal battles. It gets ugly very fast. Again, there are better ways of dealing with your heartbreak. That said, there will be times when an Ex will behave in ways that are clearly abusive and for that you will need to go to court. Sorry.

7. Don’t start hiding money or assets.
There appear to be two sorts of men, at least within those I coach. The first behave in a way that is decent and above board aiming to keep their ex and kids well provided for. The second group start panicking about getting taken for all they’re worth and start behaving in ways that are less than their best. If this kind of thing starts to happen then it’s time to call in the lawyers as they know how to find the truth.

8. Start preparing right now.
You know how it takes 9 months for a baby to be born? That’s natures way of giving the parents time to prepare. Saying goodbye takes time to prepare too so don’t worry if it feels too daunting right now. In most cases it appears to take at least six months and often a year to separate out. You may well be living in the same house together for months as you work out what to do.

9. Make absolutely certain you’re making the right choice.
Getting a divorce is probably the most expensive thing you will ever do. On EVERY level! It really is worth investing solid energy in trying to figure out whether the marriage is definitely dead or you just feel like it should be. Through our ‘Should I Stay or Should I Go’ program people have experienced some amazing recoveries. Seriously, you owe it to yourself to make absolutely sure, I’m often picking up the pieces of regret for people and it’s not pretty.

10. Don’t do anything rash!
Trying to fit all this into a top ten is a long way from easy. This one is a bit of a catch all but hopefully it will cover whatever rash act you had in mind. Your emotions may be running extremely hot right now and you do not want to be basing your thinking on them. Take the time to get the support you need and potentially you could come out of this whole mess much quicker than you think.

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How to Write a Dating Profile that gets You the Attention You Deserve

The Sad Truth About Men

Point number one is that men and women online date in an entirely different fashion. We may not actually be from different planets but we do have our differences. This is especially true when it comes to placing a profile on an internet dating site. You may be shocked to hear that men aren’t at all interested in what you write up in your profile. Not for a little while anyway. Firstly they look at your photo. And if they like that, then they look at your other photos to make sure the first one is actually realistic. This piece of dating advice may be a little painful but you need to remember that your man to be is, at heart, a hunter. At this point he’s still tracking game and only if you pass this test will he start to dig a little deeper.

This is where it gets interesting, he’s not going to read your profile, he’s going to scan it and look for words he finds interesting or, dare I say it, arouse his interest. I’m going to share something with you that I’ve observed because I’m on the inside when it comes to people getting results on dating sites. This may be painful for you to hear but it’s probably going to be less than shocking.


How to Capture a Man’s Attention

The women who put profiles together that get deluged with replies work in words like: flirting, amorous, playful, snogging, experimental, massage, riding, sunshine, intimate, great kissers. Now none of these are overly graphic, they don’t even begin to promise adult fun on your first date or anything like that, but they will get you a lot of attention. These are words that could be referred to as ‘trigger’ words. You can put them into any sentence and men are going to spot them and potentially drift off into a fantasy about you. This is a good thing. Capturing a man’s attention really isn’t all that difficult.

Recently I came across a couple of brilliant examples that were none too subtle but gracefully executed. One woman talked about herself being ‘colourful, fruity and a little bit naughty just like her favourite cocktail’. Another woman admitted to a love of rabbits and given the look of one of her photos it’s almost certain that she’s not talking about Bugs Bunny.

It’s no different from real life. You know you have friends who don’t appear to be anything special and yet they continually seem to be bathed in male attention for no reason that you can distinguish. It’s not because they are easy or anything like that, they’re just good at coming across as more fun than most other women.
Be Playful, Flirtatious and Give Men a Chance

This is where you get to make a personal choice, it’s entirely up to you. I’ve fought with clients over this piece of dating advice when they were getting miserable about the lack of response to their intelligently witty profile. What can I say, most men really are as shallow as you fear and it’s not just me. The good news is that there’s often more to men than meets the eye once you managed to capture his attention and get to know him.

All we’re talking about here is getting a man to make a buying decision which I talk more about in the tips below. You’re just making sure you get his full attention so you can then make a decision about whether you’re interested in going any further with him.

What amazes me is the level of resistance to being a little or, in some cases, a lot more flirty. Every woman I’ve ever spoken to loves kissing, can be amorous and in the right circumstances considers herself to be experimental and playful. Why not make it a selling point?

There are two major objections I hear to this idea:

I don’t want to sound like a slut. – Me neither, I don’t blame you. Just be careful about the words you use. There’s a world of difference between the word amorous and slutty. What do you think?
I want quality not quantity. Yes, I agree that getting 20 amorously interested messages next time you log into your account could be a little daunting but it’s nothing you can’t handle. Just get good at tossing out the rubbish. You don’t want to be eliminating options this early on.
So what if you decided to slip on your red heels, or whatever it is that allows you to vamp up a bit, as you wrote your profile? How would that change the way you portray yourself? Attraction is a subconscious process and a lot more primal than you may be comfortable with. Knowing this piece of dating advice, what could you do differently?


Dating Tips on Writing Profiles

Look at the cover of a men’s magazine to see what words trigger their buying response. If you really want to be clever, pick the ones you’d actually read, then you know you’re using the right words for your kind of a guy!
I used to run a program called Finding Miss Right for which we had next to no interest because that’s not where men are at. Most men start out looking for women who are fun to spend time with and may actually put out at some point. They then start to build a relationship. As Barbara DeAngelis says ‘men are looking for sex and women are looking for love’.
Remember that you’re still in charge with regard to the timing of any fooling around – you’re not making any promises, just engaging allusions. One of my number one pieces of dating advice is that sex on a first date is generally the kiss of death for a relationship. There are exceptions, but not many!


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The four signs of emotionally unavailable man

Are you frustrated by your “broken picker?” Learn how to navigate the tricky space between picky and selective using these four tips!

If you are sick of attracting men who are emotionally unavailable, it’s not because you have a “broken picker!” More likely, you are not listening to what he says (many women have selective hearing and interpret everything he says based on what they want), not listening to your gut, or jumping into a relationship so fast it makes it hard to get out when you know it’s the right thing to do.

Never fear, once you begin to recognize Dating With Dignity’s “Four Signs of the Emotionally Unavailable Man” and how to effortlessly spot him, you will never again have to wonder what it means when he disappears, flakes, is hot and cold, or is words and actions are just plain confusing.

Clue #1: He directly says it to YOU. Yes, men typically mean what they say and say what they mean. He may simply tell you he’s not looking for a relationship.

Drop the selective hearing, ladies, and start listening to the men you date immediately! He might tell you that you’re “amazing,” but he just can’t commit to anything right now.

One of the biggest fears of this type of man is becoming lost in a relationship and losing his freedom. Often times these people really do want to connect with someone but are too afraid to start anything because they know they really aren’t ready. And believe us: you can’t be “so amazing” that he flips his switch and becomes your perfect mate. It rarely to never happens.

Clue #2: He is in a relationship… with someone else.

He probably shares LOTS of information about his relationships, which might give you the impression that he’s sharing with you, and therefore you’re being emotionally intimate. But someone who is in a relationship with SOMEONE ELSE cannot possibly be as open with you as you deserve.

While this advice seems obvious, I can’t tell you how many women we see in our community who have been sold a pile of big doo doo when it comes to men being “sort of single.” Bottom line, ladies: these excuses DO NOT count:

  • We haven’t had sex in years.
  • We’re moving into separate places any day now. It’s financially difficult, but we’re working on it.
  • And, btw, I am miserable.
  • Once the kids are (insert any milestone here), we’re going to split.
  • We haven’t had sex in years. (Yes, it’s here twice because for some reason this one is a big seller.)
  • My wife is emotionally unstable. Soon…soon. She’s in therapy.
  • I don’t feel like this with her, and you’re amazing. I’m confused, but the truth is I love you. Can you be patient?
  • Get the picture?

Clue #3: He loves the chase; but once you respond positively, he stops calling.

Emotionally unavailable men have a push-pull strategy. They tend to pursue you hard toward the beginning. But once you let them know they’ve won you over, they pull away and often disappear for a week or two. If he has a consistent pattern of disappearing, this is a serious red flag.

It’s even more concerning when he can’t articulate what’s happening for him during these periods. If he uses the words “busy” regarding why he seems to vanish, run immediately in the other direction.

Clue #4: His words don’t match his actions.

When a man is full of mixed messages, it’s not a good sign. He may surprise you with a weekend getaway and then cancel on you several times in a row the next week.He also hates planning ahead, and talking about the future terrifies him.

Having the belief that you don’t deserve a whole, healthy, and satisfying relationship can be a reflection of low self esteem, and it’s at these points in your life that you’re more likely to settle for an emotionally unavailable man. There is no reason to settle.

So watch for these four signs of emotionally unavailable men, and make yourself available for someone who is emotionally available. You deserve the best!

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Tips for Facing Senior Men Who Only Date Younger Women

As a woman, whatever your time of life, it’s important for you to feel vital and attractive in yourself first.

Still, while you’re a single midlife woman looking and feeling great in your 50s, it’s ego deflating and daunting to face the online singles scene when all you see are 50-something single men wanting to only date much younger women.

Senior single women will often come to my singles seminars saying it seems like all the senior single men only want to date women in their 30s and 40s.

You can feel demoralized if that’s all you’re reading on the senior singles sites in your area.

Take heart and know the mature men who are thinking they only want to date much younger women are usually the freshly divorced men, newly single again after just coming out of their former marriage.

Give them a little time, and they’ll come around. Much of what he currently thinks he wants is based on what he no longer wants from his ex-wife.

Rest assured, once he has gone on more than five dates with much younger women, he’ll most likely come around to desiring attractive mature women who are also in his age range.

“He thinks he wants the 28-year-old
until he is out on the dance floor with her.”

What do senior single men want in women now?

What they really want is someone who is attractive, takes care of her looks and enjoys an active lifestyle.

He wants to share some of life’s activities with an alluring woman who can be a life companion and mate.

But the pace of a 28-year-old woman versus a 48-year-old woman really is different.

In a light fantasy, he thinks he wants the 28- or 38-year-old until he is out on the dance floor of life with her a few times.

Then reality kicks in and he adjusts his sights for an attractive woman who is his peer.

That’s when he’ll start noticing you!

Keep searching and getting out there, and you can find quality senior singles.

What are you seeing in the dating profiles of senior men where you are? Is it encouraging or discouraging for you?

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Older Women Dating Younger Men: Doomed from the Start or Happily Ever After in Cougarville?

If you’re an older woman getting back in the dating game, it can be daunting to decide if someone is the right age for you. And more often than not, the question is, “Is he too young for me?”

If you’re an older woman dating a younger man, is it doomed from the start or will you be happily ever after?

There are a few things at play here. It’s very possible that an older woman dating a younger man can have a lasting relationship and live happily ever after in Cougarville! If you’re in your forties and feel like you have a young soul and body, it might be easy as pie for you to attract a guy in his mid- or late twenties (or thirties!), and to that we say “Good for you!” We at Dating with Dignity aren’t “age-ists!” However, if you’re looking for a long-term relationship, you may want to proceed with caution. (And not for the reasons you may think).

Here’s why:

An older woman does pose an alluring challenge for a younger man. Not only is she at her most confident, but this woman has got it together. She supports herself and is very in touch with her needs. Some younger men feel like they can learn from her and that she has enough life experience for both of them. Older women tend to exude a more “together” vibe, seeming to be more in tune with her needs (physical or otherwise), which makes her very attractive to younger men.

The problem, however, can be that an older woman is simply a challenge for the younger man. And since it’s likely he’s in a different stage of his life (just beginning to establish his career, getting to know himself, and possibly not yet ready to make a long-term commitment) and you’re beyond that point, it can be a dealbreaker for a potential relationship.

Ultimately, in this scenario, being younger impacts his values. And since we believe a match made in heaven is based on common values, you may be setting yourself up to be in a mismatch from the get-go.

However, as long as you’re both open and honest with each other and have discussed your needs, wants, expectations and values…then go for it. This is EXTREMELY important and will make or break where your relationship is headed.

Some other potential issues that can arise if an older woman is dating a younger man:

There’s a chance you’ll experience some insecurities or anxiety about whether a younger guy will stray, but that can only happen if you haven’t mastered your own self-confidence that a guy is with you for the right reason. If you’re confident that he loves you for a host of reasons beyond your looks and the ego boost he gets from “landing” you as his woman, then it’s imperative you trust him and the relationship you’re building (which is true in any relationship, regardless of age).

Another challenge is that most women want to be in a relationship with an “Alpha Male.” If, however, as an older woman you have a more difficult time letting him take the alpha role, you may ultimately end up feeling like you’re the one who’s “in charge.” It’s imperative that you stay in your feminine, even if you’re more financially stable, have more life experience than him, and are dying to tell him what you would do if you were in his shoes.

In order for the relationship to thrive, you must find places in the relationship where you can be in your feminine. Ask him for help around the house, put him in charge of travel, let him cook you a special meal, and be comfortable in sharing your vulnerabilities with him. If you’re able to navigate gender roles and live in your SEXY Alpha FEMinine, the relationship can work for the long term.

Doom Indicators

If you’re a woman who feels stigmatized by the relationship, it’s likely headed in the wrong direction. December-May is always going to be looked at in a different light than May-December; so unless you can ignore others’ opinions about your relationship with a younger man, you’ll be out of luck.

If you’re a woman who has insecurity about aging (Okay, who doesn’t?) and it’s affecting your relationship because you’re constantly asking your man to validate your youth, it will be hard to pull off.

If you’re in a different stage of love than your guy and you haven’t communicated about it, you’ll need to do that.It’s important he be on the same page as you in terms of making a long-term commitment, having a family, and career goals.


Some studies have shown that if a wife is five or more years younger than her husband, they’re much more likely to avoid divorce. However, other studies have shown that divorce rates have absolutely nothing to do with age differences between men and women. This could be that often times older women dating younger men have already been married and decide to skip tying the knot again, so ask yourself what you’re looking for. If it’s a long-term relationship, just be open and honest with any man (younger OR older) and you can definitely find yourself happily ever after in Cougarville.

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How Long Should a Baby Boomer First Date Last?

You’re a motivated midlife single looking for love online with a fellow baby boomer single.

You invested in great photographs. You plunked down your hard-earned cash and invested further in yourself by paying the membership fees at one of the better senior online dating sites.

You searched for great potential dates. You were proactive about communicating with the other attractive singles at the mature dating sites.

And now you two have agreed you want to meet for an in-person first date.

Don’t blow it all now by not knowing how long a first date should be.

Sure, we’ve all heard some stories of awesome and amazing first dates that led to major romance where that date lasted for hours.

However, to tell the truth, that is a romantic Hollywood notice. You don’t want to let all the fizz out of the bottle by having your first date last too long.

It’s better to flirt and keep it a little bit short, but not too short, and agree to meet for a second date than to have that first date go on for hours.

“The goal of a first date is simply to flirt and connect.”

It’s just 60 minutes.

I recommend a guideline for first dates to last about one hour.

Sure, it’s OK if it goes on a bit longer, maybe up to about 75 minutes. However, be wary of allowing it to last much longer than the 75-minute mark.

You might be thinking you two are getting along great and the conversation is just flowing fantastically, but then you find that because the two of you revealed so much of yourselves to each other too fast and too quickly, you doused the little ember of romantic spark between you two.

Remember, this person is in many ways still a complete stranger. It’s better to allow your connection to build more naturally and organically over time than to cover too much too quickly.

The goal of a first date is simply to flirt and connect and get to a great second date!

In what ways do you keep your baby boomer first dates from lasting too long? Your comments are more than welcome!

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Why Do People Fall in Love in the Springtime?

The days are getting longer, the temperature is rising and soon millions of people will begin a summer romance.

Why is this so? Isn’t it just as common to snuggle and fall in love beside a warm fire on a cold night?

Yes, it is, but the search for that cherished mate begins months before.

Science tells us why.

The Earth’s biological cycles can affect our physiology and our behavior. Seasonal change can be linked to hormonal fluctuations, our blood pressure and even our immune system function.

For instance, people tend to put on weight in the winter and they sleep longer. We suffer more anxiety in fall.

In spring, we have the most health problems and depression (even suicides.) There’s no better remedy for a down mood than love.

“It all begins in the spring. Clothes become more revealing. Our bodies get active.”

Humans are connected to seasonal changes.

Like all animals, humans are very connected to nature and seasonal change.

In our anthropological past, humans who survived the long, dark, cold winter were depleted and anxious before they gained renewed optimism by the longer days.

The onset of spring signals new growth, a fresh harvest and long days to be active. There is nothing more live affirming than love.

Communicating with another, exchanging affection and the dopamine rush of sex helps us overcome the frightening feelings that can come with changes in climate.

Remember, in our ancient history, people didn’t know if the sun (and food) was ever coming back. But love makes us feel hopeful.

By the time the autumn arrives, those who find a mate hunker down for the winter. Not surprisingly, the most common birthday month for human beings is August.

That means in the darkest days of winter, when our ancient people huddled together around fires and awaited the spring, there was some great sex happening.

And there still is.

Men’s testosterone levels rise by the end of the summer and peak in the fall.

And if the holidays are not filled with exciting sex and cozy bonding, that’s the time of the year most people go online to find mate.

Online dating sites report their biggest surge in users is between Christmas and New Year’s, when single people take stock of their situation and make resolutions to find love.

But it all begins in the spring. Clothes become more revealing. Our bodies get active.

The evenings become longer and warmer, and that sets us up to search for a summer lover for next winter’s nest.

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